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Bloom in Any Season

I was crying, running on vapors, trying to do it all myself. Why do I keep forgetting I didn't get this far alone? I need Him to bloom in any season.(Last Updated On: November 23, 2015)

Last Sunday, I held this beautiful rose in my hand as it bloomed defiantly in November. I heard God’s quiet whisper,

“Even this rose can bloom in any season.”

What wonderful encouragement! I have been truly relying on God during this difficult season in the Army, tired but coping.

And isn’t that when the bottom falls out? the minute we think we have it all together? the minute we try to do it ourselves .  .  .

God was encouraging me after the month we’ve had.

My husband has been gone 18 hour days, 6-7 days a week, most Army related but some hunting, and selfishly, I get tired of being ‘all the adults.‘ I was on vapors, holding on desperately for a break. When making frozen pizza seems overwhelming, I’ve hit rock bottom. I thought I had no more to give.

But God was also preparing & instructing me for the week to come.

Monday, the text message came, “Don’t expect me home.”

At all, for at least 72 hours, maybe a week. No warning, no planning ahead. Just gone. Not in war, not deployed. Yet, tiny heartbreaking nights that he just isn’t home.

I was crying, running on vapors, trying to do it all myself. Why do I keep forgetting I didn't get this far alone? I need Him to bloom in any season.

A piece of sensitive equipment (read expensive) went missing and the entire unit was put on lockdown. It wasn’t done appropriately. Soldiers were left with no food, denied necessary medications, while others were let walk to the convenience store or go home to tend to pets.

My husband was stressed and furious. If there was a way to make this situation more disastrous and less compassionate, they found it. Helplessly watching it unfold via text message was so incredibly difficult. Knowing how this would ripple through every inch of our next weeks, I could feel my anxiety building.

But I tried to push it down, jump those hurdles without breathing hard. We can do this! I’m not who I used to be. I’ve totally got this  . . .

. . . but the pressure built inside. I could feel God mentally tapping me on the shoulder, trying to get my attention.

“Even this rose can bloom in any season.”

But I didn’t want to bloom. I wanted to BE MAD. I mean had a good reason to lose it, right?

By day 3, I broke my #30DaysWithoutComplaint challenge. While I tried to be strong and calm, I ran out of steam. I cried. I complained, launching into the unfairness of it all, but I didn’t feel any better.

I was cooking  two separate, multi-step meals for a friend whose husband was having surgery, cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for my house, making a week’s worth of meals for my husband, plus packing a suitcase, trying not to forget anything since we live 45 minutes from his training facility.

Meanwhile I was trying to parent, home-school, check in with family, fellowship with friends, deal with accidental Facebook drama, and take care of my personal needs, like eating. And deal with a 5-year-old who was having her own missing daddy breakdown. When I would look up from the chaos, all I could see was the dust, dog hair, and general filth and clutter taking over my house.

I was running out of steam because I was trying to do it all. I. Me. ME.

Ephesians 2:8 ESV  “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,”

Where was God in there? Yeah, I was giving Him a nod, keeping my exterior calm, but I wasn’t giving Him the anxiety in my heart, not asking Him to guide my emotions or attitude.

NOT MY OWN DOING. I didn’t change and grow through my own will, why can’t I remember this?

Why can’t I remember I will never outgrow needing Him?

I was trying to multi-task, poorly, trying to avoid burning down my house literally (I do have a nicely browned potholder now) and figuratively, not destroy months of work I’ve done living some big changes Christ is working in me.

And God whispered, you can bloom in ANY season when you live by faith. #BloominAnySeason Click To Tweet

Again seeing the rose in my mind, I heard God calling me to bloom in THIS hard season. I opened my bible app and let it start reading to me while I worked.

James 1:3 ESV For you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.”

Just last week, I wrote about the beauty of our marriage through the testing we’ve survived, the way we’ve learned to rely on each other. So did I mean it?

When I wanted to cry, I said, God “let me put down my agenda for this week and pick up YOURS.”

My prayers changed from bring him home to ‘how can I be calm despite the storm, help me prioritize,  and be a blessing and encouragement to my husband and friends.’

Why can't I remember I will never outgrow needing Him? Can't do this life on my own. #BloominAnySeason Click To Tweet

It was draining and emotional, but I managed to focus on one moment at a time and to be a blessing when my husband finally came home frustrated and exhausted.

Instead of demanding he talk, I let him work through his feelings. When he was sharp, I took a deep breath instead of firing back. I offered whatever support he needed and let him set the tone for the weekend, so he would have the fortitude to face the new week, including a 24 hour duty on Thanksgiving.

One way I learned to bloom in any season was to realize that sometimes messy can be beautiful because the house doesn’t get our attention – when we give it to people instead.

We are in the last years of his career, but the constant trials of Army life are surrounding us. We can focus on the difficulties or know that we’re being shaped and pruned to face every struggle, beautifully able to bloom in any season.


32 thoughts on “Bloom in Any Season

  1. Reading this, I was struck by the beauty of God giving you a flower as a reminder. Thanks for sharing your heart.

    1. I love how He puts those reminders in my life. Especially the pretty ones, but He’s used dirty underwear before too.

  2. What a great post. My heart goes out to you, and I have to admit that now I feel foolish that I have been upset over my husband having to work extra hours this week. At least he gets to come home at night. Stay strong!

    1. And after I wrote this a friend of mine posted that he hasn’t had a single day off since June, working three jobs. Someone always has it harder than we do. We need to be grateful for our own trials.

  3. It truly is amazing to me that we serve a God who is ALWAYS there for us and constantly helps us bloom! He is SO good!!!

    1. He is! Every time I start to worry or stress, he shows me He is present!

  4. Great encouragement! We need to remember that He is sufficient in every situation…how often I feel like I’m running on vapours too! And yet if we turn to Him we can find rest and peace.

    1. And refocus my priorities on His mission for me, not mine!

  5. That is so hard… I wish I had some great words. But I know that God does, and it is reassuring that while you struggle you do continue to go back to God. Even with words of anger and hurt and with tears streaming. He wants to be part of it, and He never walks away.


    1. It is a great mystery that I found peace in the middle of stress and frustration when I quit fighting for my plans. He was there the whole time just waiting for me to want him.

  6. Warrior mom and wife.blessings.I think Satan attacks us a lot through our marriage.I think sometimes being a parent is much easier being a good spouse I think we need him more than ever on that front.

    1. I have had to learn to be so much more selfless as a spouse than I ever imagined. Maybe our expectations for marriage are just so far from reality!

  7. Thank you for sharing so honestly, it sounds like a really rough season you’ve been through. so encouraged by your sharing!

    1. It wasn’t the hardest thing we’ve ever survived, but hard piled on hard piled on harder and I just fell apart. Glad He was there to catch me.

  8. ((hugs)) He is all we need yet we all forget it from time to time. 🙂

    1. I just shake my head at how forgetful I can be.

  9. THIS! I’ve been in the middle of a whirlwind life lately myself and this was exactly what I needed to make myself stop and breath! Perfect timing! Thank you so much for sharing!!!

    1. I’m glad it helped you slow down and focus on what matters.

  10. This post spoke to me today! Seems you have been spying on my week. Different circumstances but the same results. Thanking Him for His grace and patience!

    1. Glad we both got to the same place!

  11. You are right! We always need Him! Every day, every season!

  12. That is such a tough situation! You did so well to get through it with a renewed attitude at the end. We all hit the deck hard when tired and stressed. I am blessed that you got back up again and relied on the Lord.

    May the Lord bless you and your family and may the burdens be evenly shared.

    1. Thank you. I don’t know about evenly, but we try to share based on our strengths and energy levels.

  13. Thank you for this — marriage really is about give and take, and there are seasons when we as wives give and then there are seasons when we take. Thank you for this reminder that it’s not all about sunshine and roses, it’s about slugging it out through the crazy, rough times too.

    1. Yes, there is a season for everything!

  14. I love this reminder, Jennifer! I’ve been going through some messy seasons myself – little tornados spinning all around me and I’m trying not to lose balance, to keep juggling everything without dropping it all. I’ve been relying far to much on my own strength. Thanks for this reminder today. I sure needed it!

    1. I keep hoping someday I will remember this before I spin out.

  15. Jennifer, thank you and your husband for serving our country and the sacrifices you both are making.

    1. Thank you for supporting us!

  16. God can help us to bloom in any season of our lives! 😀

  17. Isn’t it good to know that God is always there? As I read your post the chorus of a song began playing in my head, “I need thee every hour, o I need thee…” I am glad that everything worked out this week. You certainly have a lot on your plate. God bless you and your family. May you continue to bloom in spite of the trials that may come your way.

    1. Thank you. It is always something I need to remember!

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