How to Be a Godly Woman in a Modern World

(Last Updated On: March 13, 2017)

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Trying to be a Godly woman in a modern world often feels like running my hand across a barbed wire fence, lots of sharp places waiting to trip me up. So how do we stand firm in our faith?

The world’s ideas of modern femininity surround us. Entertainment, politics, and even education proclaim what it means to be a woman. Trying to avoid the current cultural definition of femininity would be like trying to take a bath without getting wet.

I know I won’t navigate it perfectly, but I want to be a woman after God’s heart most of all.

So how do we combat the onslaught?

Be in the Word Daily.

Imagine a hard, dry sponge dropped into dirty water. The sponge will immediately soak up the filthy water surrounding it.

Now, immerse a dry sponge in clean water until it’s saturated. When the full sponge sits in the dirty water, the filth rests surface deep. It is so filled with pure water, it can’t hold anything else.

We need to be so full of God’s purity that the world has no hold over us.

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When we read God’s word, we become saturated with His purity. We become full of His definitions for who we are, His standards, His love and grace.

We need to be so full of God's purity that the world has no hold over us.

But the longer that clean sponge sits in the greasy sink, the dirtier it gets. Just as the longer we are in the world, the more we absorb its answers for who we are supposed to be. We need to be continually refilling ourselves from the Bible.

Proverbs 1:7 tell us the beginning of knowledge is a fear of the Lord. We recognize God’s righteousness through staying in His word.

God is perfectly holy in a way that I will never achieve, but by reading my Bible everyday, I see the joy of the journey is in those moments I willfully choose His righteousness over the world.

A Godly woman uses God’s standards for beauty.

I was teased mercilessly in elementary school. “Horse face” “Ugly” “Fish Face” were names I heard more often than my own. That broken sense of identity led me to seek physical beauty and polished perfection above all else for most of my life.

What I couldn’t see was how beautiful I already was in all the ways that really mattered. I was kind, creative, funny with a heart for others and a love for Christ.

1 Peter 3:4 ESV  “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

When I consider the emotional energy I’ve wasted pursuing an idealized airbrushed version of beauty, I feel a bit broken. I’ve beaten myself up so needlessly over the numbers on a scale or a smile that isn’t tissue test white.

Trying to be a Godly woman in a modern world often feels like running my hand across a barbed wire fence, lots of sharp places waiting to trip me up.

Wonderfully, God promises us the imperishable beauty of a quiet and gentle spirit precious in His sight.

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While I won’t claim to have conquered it, God has me on a journey right now of learning my true beauty is in the gentleness of my spirit, not my physical body. When I am gentle and loving, I am more beautiful no matter my waist size or hair style, even without make-up.

We choose Godly role models and friends.

It’s human nature to imitate what we see. Watch two people having a conversation, they’ll imitate posture, facial expressions, and tone. It’s called mirroring, and we do it subconsciously.

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If we’re going to imitate the people in our lives, choosing good ones is really important. So much so, that God put directions for mentorship in the Bible.

Titus 2:3-4 ESV  Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children.

We need to look for reverent women. We cannot expect perfection, but women truly pursuing holiness bear fruit in their lives.

I look to my mentor for guidance. She handles challenges with patience and grace. I see how God blesses and works in her family and her marriage. I imagine her voice when facing difficult moments. Her influence has made me a better wife, mother, woman. I have drawn closer to God under her guidance.

Being surrounded by women that are pursuing holiness affirms our faith and encourages us in fellowship. We need to share this journey.

We need Godly women to join us on our journey.

Standing alone against the tide of sin is hard. We need the strength and examples of Godly women to be able to face life’s challenges.

Being saturated in the Word, defining ourselves by God’s standards, and surrounding ourselves with Godly women are three ways to stand strong in our faith despite a culture that often runs opposite to whom God has called us to be.

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10 Replies to “How to Be a Godly Woman in a Modern World”

  1. Such a great reminder! I bet Satan barely has to do anything to get us to go down that path into self-slandering because everything is so available. Keep working on that paradigm shift!

  2. I love your sponge analogy. I hadn’t ever thought of it that way before. That’s a great way to explain it to kids too! And also, though I have never seen you in person, you look beautiful!

  3. What a heartfelt post of truth in love. The more we are exposed to the world the dirtier we become by default. The enemy has definitely skewed what true beauty is compared to who Our God says we were created to be. Satan is a counterfeiter and steals all he can from us to take away the honor and glory which belongs to God. I’ve often said women are our own worst enemies because we constantly compare and judge one another of the merits of the world instead of loving and encouraging one another to keep our eyes on God. Jennifer, I am sorry for the names you were called, but I hope you realize you are truly beautiful inside and out!
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    1. Thank you Sheila a verse that has meant a lot to me is Rev. 12:10 because it reminds me that Satan is accusing us day and night. We cannot escape his lies on our own. God has to be louder in our minds and hearts. Thank you so much for your kind words.

  4. This is so true! If we are going to mirror anyone, mirror those who mirror God! If we are going to use someone’s beauty standard, may we choose to use God’s standard and not the fickle standards of this world. The only way to accomplish this is by being in the word daily!

    What a blessing you are!

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