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How to know if you’re really Called to Homeschool

Do you feel called to homeschool? Maybe you think you might be or feel like you wish you could, but are questioning if God has called you to homeschool.(Last Updated On: December 14, 2017)

Do you feel called to homeschool? Maybe you think you might be or feel like you wish you could but are questioning if God really has called you to homeschool.

Maybe you’re picturing your sweet baby sitting all day in a hard desk instead of exploring the wonders of creation at the beach or reading together curled up on the couch, but you’re wondering if you missed this call?

Some homeschool moms talk about feeling called to homeschool.

But I always wondered what that call is supposed to sound like? Was I supposed to get some sort of message from God that homeschool is what I’m supposed to be doing?

Some homeschool moms talk about feeling called to homeschool. But I always wondered what that call is supposed to sound like?

I didn’t have a moment I heard God say, ‘and now, you shall homeschool.’ It was more of a gradual walking towards making this decision over time. 

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But hands down, It is one of the best decisions we have made.

At first, I felt it grew out of selfishness. I have this one baby, this one little girl that I waited to parent for SO LONG. Honestly, I didn’t want to send her away to school as soon as I got a chance to stay home with her.

Does the idea of sending your child to school give you a sense of unease?

It really did for me.

Other than just wanting to make up for the first few years when I worked and really enjoy raising my child, the only local preschool was full days. No way was my three-five year old going to spend 8 hours a day away from home.

God has given us this child to raise. By the time we would get home from work or school, we would only get a few precious hours before bedtime. Those hours would be full of homework and dinner. If she wants to play sports or spend time with friends, it would be even less.  

Can I really raise a child in two hours a day? Am I supposed to? Or am I called to homeschool?

Can I really raise a child in two hours a day? Am I supposed to??

No judging parents who’ve made different choices, but my daughter needed more of us those early years in her education. She was struggling with ADHD and intense emotions. Helping her walk through some of those things was crucial in her development, as was having lots of free time between lessons.

Homeschooling can usually be accomplished in few clock hours during the day. She sleeps until 8 or 9. We eat a leisurely breakfast and read together from the Bible or a history textbook.

School was 3-5 educational hours with lots of time to explore her interests. She had many hours for silent reading and many breaks for play and creativity. I had the flexibility assess her comprehension with a quiz or by asking her to draw a picture of life in ancient Egypt, or learn through travel & field trips.

Homeschool let her be little a little longer.

A recent Stanford study agrees that we’re sending kids to school way too early, missing time for play. A lot of cognitive development happens during play. Unstructured play even provides for the type of physical development which must occur before kids can sit still at desks all day.

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In the early 70s, my preschool was 2 or 3 half days a week at three and four years old. Kindergarten was half days. My elementary school days were 6.5 hours. We started at 9 and ended at 3:30. We also had 75 minutes for lunch and two recesses. I ate lunch at home with my mom and sisters.

School isn’t the same anymore.

Today, she would leave for the bus stop at 7:15 and get home by 3:30, having a thirty minute at-school lunch and one recess at the end of the school day. Having such a long day seemed to be unnecessarily structured for a kid who started teaching herself to read at 2 1/2 from Super Why!

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I also had unease about the quality of our local schools. All schools are imperfect, but our district zoned elementary school was very much struggling to provide recess, music, and art. I doubted the curriculum would be rigorous enough to challenge her even if the teachers were the most caring professionals.

And, I started examining the entire idea of sending her to school.

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What is your goal for your child’s education?

I want my daughter to grow up to be a productive member of society, learn to work well with others, but mostly, be a powerful woman of God. Was school really going to offer her the best chance of becoming those things, more than I could?

No teacher would care about her and her development more than I did. School teachers might have more resources and more training for the special needs of elementary students, but I knew God would guide me if this is what He wanted for us.

One of our biggest concerns was socialization, but what is socialization?

On one hand, it means learning to behave socially with others. Between co-op, play dates, an organized bible study homeschool class, church, and actually being in the world, my daughter got LOTS of chances to be social with all sorts of people. She visits the nursing home and is the hit with the ladies there. She makes friends in the waiting room at my doctor’s office. Being social isn’t an issue for her.

Socialization is one of the biggest concerns of being called to homeschool, but do we want our kids to learn manners or worldly values?

However, socialization doesn’t just mean socializing. It means the deliberate transfer of values and morals from adults to children. When I thought about it that way, whose values did I want her to have? God’s values are my highest priority. While I don’t do it perfectly, I know that she is seeing me learn and grow in Christ daily. Even through learning to teach her math . . . and my journey is teaching her to love Jesus and seek Him.

So, I prayed. I didn’t want to spend all day apart. Actually, I enjoy spending the days with her. So, Should we homeschool?

I didn’t have a clue how my husband would feel about it. We had agreed that I would go back to work when she started school.

I took it to God in prayer.

Have you taken the question to homeschool to God in prayer?

And my husband said, “I think we need to homeschool.”

WHAT?!?! I was expecting this to be a serious conversation, maybe even heated discussion. I was floored when he agreed with me.

If there was any moment I felt called to homeschool, it was this one. 

Are you willing to learn and grow as much as your child will?

If so, you’ll do just fine.

You love your child and will strive to provide the best education you can. Find mentors, talk to neighbors, join a co-op. From field trips to the beach or local museums, you’ll find so many amazing programs and supplemental materials available. It’s difficult to do poor job homeschooling if you feel strongly you’re being called to homeschool.

And if you answered these questions differently, that’s okay. God has a different calling for each of us. What’s important is that you’re listening to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit and paying attention when He opens doors for you.



14 thoughts on “How to know if you’re really Called to Homeschool

  1. That is so great that your husband came to you and said exactly what you were thinking, God definitely answered that prayer! I do not think I would be able to homeschool any of my children, but I have thought about it before. Your daughter is definitely being blessed by your decision though, I am sure.

    1. It was a great answer to prayer for sure! I am glad we started with kindergarten. It was a good year for us both to learn.

  2. I agree that young kids need more play and less school. Every time the school bus goes by our house and my kids start saying they want to go to school, I try to remind them that they wouldn’t be able to play as much if they did. I think when they get older they will understand that a little better!

    1. My daughter switched her tune from I want to go to school to don’t send me.

  3. I had the same lack of peace about sending my son to school – that was the big indicator for me. There was no sign or writing in the sky- I just believed he wasn’t ready to tackle the pressures of school and make challenging choices for 6+ hours a day. Great insight. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Exactly! No sky writing, just mindfulness! Thank you.

  4. I liked your comment “God has a different calling for each of us. What’s important is that you’re listening to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit and paying attention when He opens doors for you.” God leads each family and even schooling for each child within a family differently. I wanted to homeschool my children more than is what happened because my husband was not on board. As the leader of our family, I submitted to him and God brought about His good purposes for all of us. A person can certainly do a godly job of parenting whichever schooling option they choose.

    1. Absolutely! Obedience to God’s direction for each of us is always the right call.

  5. I love that you brought up that homeschooling allows them to stay little longer. I love getting to KNOW my kids. Homeschooling helps that. Great post.

    1. Thank you! I love watching her develop!

  6. I feel like I was never called to home school so my daughter is going to public school, it just isnt for me, I applaud any parents that does home school though

    1. It certainly was not on my radar. I was really surprised that this ended up being our decision. And I love it! While I do think more parents would love it/could do it if they tried, I realize it’s a serious commitment and not for everyone!

  7. Was I called by God to educate our children at home? I think so. One of our desires was to see that He was a major part of and in their day and a government school wasn’t going to do that. Educating our children at home – doing “school” as real life all year ’round – was difficult. But it was the very best choice for our family. As husband and wife (mom and dad) we prayed over it and chose together to pursue the challenge. The results have shown up now that they’re adults.

    Both our children were homeschooled till they went to college, and now they’re adults with great careers, and THEY also say that it was the best thing for their development. Oh, sure. I woke at 3 AM often, wondering if I was “ruining” my kids because I felt so overwhelmed and inadequate… but God’s grace and love was always there for me. And my kids! 😉 I look back at our experiences with such fondness and joy. They do too. We talk about it often…

    When we started homeschooling there were very few choosing to go against the system, so there were times when I needed to (softly) defend my choice at the grocery store during the day, or at gatherings of friends. Now there’s a plethora of research upholding how positive this educating choice can be for children and their education. I’m looking at the next generation in our Grandboy and anticipating with joy the idea of being a part of his education “at home”. (BTW – I think “home school” is a misnomer… we spent so much time exploring and learning outside of our home I’d call it world-school… LOL )

    I agree with you fully – we need to pray over the desire and decision. First. During. And always. God will make the path clear.

    1. So encouraging to hear from a mom who has successfully walked this path! We’re only starting second grade!

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