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Rejected Rock or Cornerstone

Do you ever struggle with feeling rejected? Between gossip and judgmental 'friends', we all do from time to time. But what is God's truth?(Last Updated On: December 10, 2015)

Do you ever feel rejected?

I have been really struggling with rejection the past few weeks: gossip, slander, unkind messages, ignored phone calls. Praying and working through this issue, I’ve realized feeling rejected has colored on the canvas of my entire life (but I’m in good company).

I remember being happy and confident as a child. Then the first day of kindergarten, I somehow didn’t fit. I was called cruel names. No one asked me to play during recess. A cruel boy ruined my new ‘cowboy’ boots in second grade when I left them in the coat room. I was rejected and bullied mercilessly throughout elementary and middle school.

Sophomore year, it eased up some as my braces came off and my hair grew out from an unfortunate Dorothy Hamill bob that was NEVER a good look. But rejection followed me to college, into adulthood, even as a military spouse. And I internalized being rejected as definitions of ME.

“I am weird.”

“I am unlikable.”

“I am ugly.”

“I am fat.”

“No one will ever really love me.”

“My thighs touch.”

“I always mess things up.”

“I’m a failure as a mother.”

“I’m not worth loving.”

“I’m not a good enough Christian.”

And Satan uses it all, whispering fiercely into my head and heart.

As Revelations 12:10 says, our enemy accuses us day and night. He is the constant liar.

Do you ever struggle with feeling rejected? Between gossip and judgmental 'friends', we all do from time to time. But what is God's truth?

Even just a few days ago, I lay sobbing from the painful sting yet again. If I am doing this Christ-thing right, why do people reject me? Am I even a good person? Am I a good mom? Am I a good Christian even though some people don’t like me?

1 Peter 2:4-8 ESV  As you come to him, a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious, you yourselves like living stones are being built up as a spiritual house, to be a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. For it stands in Scripture: “Behold, I am laying in Zion a stone, a cornerstone chosen and precious, and whoever believes in him will not be put to shame.” So the honor is for you who believe, but for those who do not believe, “The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone,” and “A stone of stumbling, and a rock of offense.” They stumble because they disobey the word, as they were destined to do.”

I read this passage from 1 Peter and realized that I’m chosen and precious to Him. Then I wondered why am I giving these people so much power over my life? What gives them credibility? If it isn’t God, why am I listening!?!

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God chose ME as precious. He reached into my miserable little life and calls me beloved child. He is building me into a spiritual house. If I am being transformed by Him, their definitions do not matter.

“. . . whoever believes in him will not be put to shame.”

I am so easily manipulated by today. I forget that in the end God won’t let me be put to shame if I’m following His will for my life. Just keep taking one step toward Him each day, the rest will take care of itself.

Jesus was rejected and offended people; He made people angry. They rejected Him to the point of crucifixion. And He was perfect.

I’m not perfect. I can’t expect for everyone to love me. I sometimes have ‘openmouthinsertfoot-itis.’ I can keep growing as a person and Christian, but what I cannot keep doing is letting people dictate how I define myself when God already gave me His definition.

1 John 3:1-2 ESV “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.”

God’s love defines me. He carves my beauty out of the mud and muck in which I’ve so long been mired.  The Master of the universe chose me before the foundation of the world (Ephesians 1:4).

How dare I hold onto these labels of lies, of blame, and rejection, questioning who I am, when what I will be has not yet appeared?

Oh, the hope in that appearance, that I will someday appear like Him as I labor to be transformed by Him.

12 thoughts on “Rejected Rock or Cornerstone

  1. I like this post, and I like what you replied to someone above – we can reach more people when we are real and when we are honest. I suspect a lot of women struggle with this in some way or other, and it’s good to remember that we are chosen and precious and God loves us more than we could ever imagine.
    Thanks for being honest, and sharing how you fight the negative. 🙂

    1. It was good for me to look back at this post and see how much I’ve grown just since writing it. Part of God’s purpose for my blog is my learning how far I’ve come. Thanks for being real with me.

  2. Just the other day, I heard myself thinking some really negative thoughts like the ones you mentioned above. Then I heard a little voice saying, “That’s Satan talking. Don’t listen.” The quicker we realize who is telling those lies about us, the sooner we can get back to gloriously living in the truth.

    1. Exactly! The world doesn’t see correctly either. We can’t use those standards to judge ourselves because they lead to death. Satan has just made them seem appealing.

  3. We have to remember who we are in Christ which at times can be difficult. That’s why it is so important to be in the Word everyday.

    1. Absolutely. The more time we spend with him the more we act like Him and know we belong firmly in His grace.

  4. You are honest in sharing your struggles. God sees your heart.
    Jennifer you are loved (Jeremiah 31:3)! There is no condemnation for you (Romans 8:1) You are created for good works (Ephesians 2:10)
    Lots of Blessings to you, Jennifer.

    1. This is an update to an old blog, but I know I can reach more people for Christ through my struggles than pretending I have it all together.

  5. We’re all made in God’s image. We are perfect just the way we are. However, in the face of rejection it can be so hard to remember that. Praying God’s love will wrap around you and you will continue learning to listen to what He says about you and not people.

  6. oh i can SO relate to all of that! 😀

  7. I love you.

    1. Thank you, Hon.

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