How to Be a Godly Woman in a Modern World

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Trying to be a Godly woman in a modern world often feels like running my hand across a barbed wire fence, lots of sharp places waiting to trip me up. So how do we stand firm in our faith?

The world’s ideas of modern femininity surround us. Entertainment, politics, and even education proclaim what it means to be a woman. Trying to avoid the current cultural definition of femininity would be like trying to take a bath without getting wet.

I know I won’t navigate it perfectly, but I want to be a woman after God’s heart most of all.

So how do we combat the onslaught?

Be in the Word Daily.

Imagine a hard, dry sponge dropped into dirty water. The sponge will immediately soak up the filthy water surrounding it.

Now, immerse a dry sponge in clean water until it’s saturated. When the full sponge sits in the dirty water, the filth rests surface deep. It is so filled with pure water, it can’t hold anything else.

We need to be so full of God’s purity that the world has no hold over us.

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When we read God’s word, we become saturated with His purity. We become full of His definitions for who we are, His standards, His love and grace.

We need to be so full of God's purity that the world has no hold over us.

But the longer that clean sponge sits in the greasy sink, the dirtier it gets. Just as the longer we are in the world, the more we absorb its answers for who we are supposed to be. We need to be continually refilling ourselves from the Bible.

Proverbs 1:7 tell us the beginning of knowledge is a fear of the Lord. We recognize God’s righteousness through staying in His word.

God is perfectly holy in a way that I will never achieve, but by reading my Bible everyday, I see the joy of the journey is in those moments I willfully choose His righteousness over the world.

A Godly woman uses God’s standards for beauty.

I was teased mercilessly in elementary school. “Horse face” “Ugly” “Fish Face” were names I heard more often than my own. That broken sense of identity led me to seek physical beauty and polished perfection above all else for most of my life.

What I couldn’t see was how beautiful I already was in all the ways that really mattered. I was kind, creative, funny with a heart for others and a love for Christ.

1 Peter 3:4 ESV  “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

When I consider the emotional energy I’ve wasted pursuing an idealized airbrushed version of beauty, I feel a bit broken. I’ve beaten myself up so needlessly over the numbers on a scale or a smile that isn’t tissue test white.

Trying to be a Godly woman in a modern world often feels like running my hand across a barbed wire fence, lots of sharp places waiting to trip me up.

Wonderfully, God promises us the imperishable beauty of a quiet and gentle spirit precious in His sight.

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While I won’t claim to have conquered it, God has me on a journey right now of learning my true beauty is in the gentleness of my spirit, not my physical body. When I am gentle and loving, I am more beautiful no matter my waist size or hair style, even without make-up.

We choose Godly role models and friends.

It’s human nature to imitate what we see. Watch two people having a conversation, they’ll imitate posture, facial expressions, and tone. It’s called mirroring, and we do it subconsciously.

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If we’re going to imitate the people in our lives, choosing good ones is really important. So much so, that God put directions for mentorship in the Bible.

Titus 2:3-4 ESV  Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children.

We need to look for reverent women. We cannot expect perfection, but women truly pursuing holiness bear fruit in their lives.

I look to my mentor for guidance. She handles challenges with patience and grace. I see how God blesses and works in her family and her marriage. I imagine her voice when facing difficult moments. Her influence has made me a better wife, mother, woman. I have drawn closer to God under her guidance.

Being surrounded by women that are pursuing holiness affirms our faith and encourages us in fellowship. We need to share this journey.

We need Godly women to join us on our journey.

Standing alone against the tide of sin is hard. We need the strength and examples of Godly women to be able to face life’s challenges.

Being saturated in the Word, defining ourselves by God’s standards, and surrounding ourselves with Godly women are three ways to stand strong in our faith despite a culture that often runs opposite to whom God has called us to be.

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My Best New Years Resolution

How do you decide what New Years Resolution to make? Do you give it tons of thought? choose a bad habit you’ve been meaning to quit? or decide to try something new? This year, I was kind of at a loss.

Maybe, I’m taking life more seriously as I get older, but I’m tired of shallow resolutions that don’t become life changes.

Every year, I make the same New Years Resolution – to lose weight. I’m not a whole lot skinnier this year, but at least I’m not going the wrong direction, I suppose.

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And I’m healthier for the choices I’ve made. I eat more vegetables and try to be more active. It’s biblical to live healthier.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

But I wonder if God is pleased with the time and focus I’ve put into my outward appearance for the past 20 years, time that could have been spent growing in true beauty instead, building my faith.

Rather than consider what New Years Resolution I want to make this year, I asked God what He wanted me to change.

The prayer was barely out of my mouth before I had an answer.

Proverbs 16:9 ESV  “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”

My family has been watching Little House on the Prairie on the INSP Network. Watching the blind characters deal with race and appearance has made me wonder how I would look if no one could see.

If we couldn’t see:

  • how clean the house is
  • how my hair looks
  • what size I am
  • how nicely I’ve decorated
  • my make-up
  • wrinkles
  • how cute my daughter is

Would you see Christ in me if you couldn’t see me? Would I be beautiful if no one could see me? What is the first thing people would see if they couldn’t see me?

I make the same resolution every year. But I don't want to make just any resolution this year. I want to make my BEST New Years Resolution

My best New Years Resolution would be to live and sound more like Christ.

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And God put on my heart that I need to change my heart to soften my tone of voice. I sound stressed and harsh and irritated way too often.

Matthew 12:34b  ESV  “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”

I know I’ve come a long way in this area, (we have a lot less yelling in my house) but in some ways the change to my attitude and behavior makes the shrill frustration or exhausted irritation more obvious in contrast.

I hear it in my stepson’s voice with his brother and sister. I hear it in my daughter’s voice when she answers back or yells at the cat.

It makes me so sad that I’ve used this aggravated tone so often, the children mimic it.

So even though I plan to keep my children, pets, and husband 😉 , I’m going to let God soften my heart, exploring His word for healing of the hurts in my past, giving him control over my agenda for each day and as a wife, mother, friend, mentor.

God took a stuttering murderer and made him the leader of a nation, a mighty man of God. If God can change and use Moses, He can change and use me to reach my family for Him, by becoming the soft voice of His gentle love calling to them through me.

If I let God direct my steps, this new year will be what He makes it.