Do you want to be a happier mom?
Be a Mom without complaining.
Did you just laugh?
Because momming is soul sucking.
You have an MBA but just spent ten minutes arguing with a two-year-old that the strawberry jam in the squeeze bottle is exactly the same as the jar.
Cleaning house is pointless. You want a healthy, clean house for a tiny person who leaves messes in his wake like Godzilla in Tokyo.
Life is a never-ending cycle of feeding people, cleaning up after people and doing chores over and over and over. And sometimes there is poop – okay, lots of times, there is poop.
So how do we stop complaining while recognizing this is a hard season of our lives?
We recognize the struggle without unpacking and living in it!
1. Shift perspective
Ask God for His perspective. He always helps me look past my initial emotions to see the forest of blessings I’m missing when I complain about all the trees in my way.
Just today, I was planning our meals wondering how much fiber I should give my kid (’cause that’s what moms worry about), and I realized I have no idea. When was the last time she yelled at me – “I’m done pooping!” and expected me to race to her side? I can’t remember.
Today’s frustration or ewww factor, might just be tomorrow’s regret. She already needs me less than she did just months ago.
If I have an unfavorite task, I teach my way through it, instructing my daughter why it is important to do with a happy heart, even when we don’t feel like it, how that makes our family a team.
I’ve learned more about what kind of person I should be by focusing on what kind of person I want to raise. Also – #3 here.
2. Always look for the bright side.
Last month, I had a leaky back tire. Instead of just $20 to fix it, the shop noticed my two front tires were cracked and ready to burst any second, $400 instead. Right before Christmas, for the second time this month . . .
BUT, I had just taken a 4 hour road trip. I was so grateful that we didn’t have a blow-out on the twisty windy Georgia back roads that could have caused a serious accident.
3. Get your worship on!
When I start to slip into an awful place, nothing shifts that attitude to happier mom faster than worshipping God. Sometimes, I have to fight myself to turn on praise music or open the Bible because my flesh would rather than sit in that pain, feeling overwhelmed and irritable.
Just do it – open the Bible and read one verse, play one random worship song. I dare you to stay crabby. It may not erase the painful circumstances, but it reminds me where my hope lies.
The last two Novembers, I’ve taken a step past daily gratitude to trying to change my entire attitude by going without complaining.
This year I felt like counting the hours until the challenge was over. November was the hardest month we’d had in a long time. Everything that could go wrong did, well almost. But December 1st came, and I didn’t want to unload all my harbored complaints.
Because I learned so much:
- I learned my faith needs testing to grow. Job, I am not.
- I learned my marriage is a million times stronger than it was before this very hard year.
- I learned I’m a happier mom when I don’t complain because what I give energy and voice to becomes my reality.
Being a happier mom means I spend less time upset, less time stressed out, less time wishing it were bedtime and more time just enjoying the moments, even the ones with poop.