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The Only Baby Advice You Really Need

I found the only baby advice you really need. The advice I wish I'd known before my daughter was born, and still true if your baby is 2, 10, 25, or 45.(Last Updated On: July 3, 2017)

I’ve found the only baby advice you really need. It’s the advice I wish I had known before my daughter was born, something I have to remember daily, and still true if your baby is 2, 10, 25, or 45.

So last year, I traveled across the country for my sister’s baby shower. She was expecting a much prayed over, long-hoped for baby, who is now a super adorable 1 year old!

Part of her baby shower was that we were asked to share our best baby advice on these cute onesie-shaped cards that my mom placed into an album for her.

Talk about pressure – how do you summarize baby advice onto a small card?

I found the only baby advice you really need. The advice I wish I'd known before my daughter was born, and still true if your baby is 2, 10, 25, or 45.

However, the longer I do this parenting thing, the less qualified I feel to give advice.

I can give you baby advice on how I got my kiddo to sleep through the night or eat peas or quit whining or how I dealt with colic, and hope you find success in that technique as well, but giving general baby advice is so challenging because so little of parenting has turned out the way I expected.

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My precious, precocious lovable child spent most of the shower being rambunctious and generally difficult. I was saddened that instead of seeing my sweet, loving girl our friends and family saw an overly emotional meltdown. Dealing with a difficult child was painful when I wanted to visit and enjoy the shower festivities. I struggled against tears with no way to remove her from the situation and tried to do my best to give her limits and discipline (and less sugar).

But that is the reality of parenting. Sometimes, it is a disaster.

Sometimes, even when we know what to do, it doesn’t work. And sometimes, you just have to roll with the punches, even when they are embarrassingly public. (And your victories are mostly when no one is around to see.)

I found the only baby advice you really need. The advice I wish I'd known before my daughter was born, and still true if your baby is 2, 10, 25, or 45.

Her behavior was a good dose of humility for me,

And prompted me to share the best baby advice I have to give.

Parenting is a journey. You know you’re getting a child at the end of your pregnancy (even if adopting). Other than food, sleep, and basic necessities, you really have little idea what to expect. Even if you have done your research, you’ll constantly be surprised.

Learning your child is a lifetime of discovery. You will have to learn YOUR baby and all the wonderful and terrible ways your child is completely unique. Every new stage will be terrifying and joyful with new accomplishments and challenges.

Parenting is perpetual and always evolving. I’m 45 and still need my parents. My daughter is seven and just about when I feel like I’ve successfully navigated her current stage, she changes.

You will have to learn your new identity as a parent and partner. Being a parent changed me completely. I never knew I could love so much or be this tired for so long! Our marriage has had to adapt and overcome adding another person as well. Our little universe had shifted focus for a few years. We have to be spouses and parents and people all at the same time.

I found the only baby advice you really need. The advice I wish I'd known before my daughter was born, and still true if your baby is 2, 10, 25, or 45.

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So, listen to everyone’s baby advice and their best tips because you never know what gem will work during a 3 a.m. scream session, but carefully and prayerfully choose what works for your child and your family.

And don’t feel badly about ignoring well-meant advice that doesn’t suit your baby or your home.

. . . but keep listening.

There is no better gift than a humble, loving parent in a family who is willing to discover the world anew.

So my advice is embrace the journey! Take all the parenting tips you can, just don’t take them to heart!

(that being said) My three best tips for expectant parents:

  1. Swaddle and put baby down drowsy with music from the beginning. Sleep is not overrated. Alone or together, teach your baby to sleep in a way that works for your future five year old, too.
  2. Gas drops – Better to have them and never need them, than need them and not have them. Because invariably colic happens at midnight.
  3. Take time to enjoy this child: the midnight feedings, the rocking chair reading, even the colicky bouncing. It goes too fast.
  4. I know I said 3, but seek God in all of it. The rest will be your adventure.

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29 thoughts on “The Only Baby Advice You Really Need

  1. Love your advice: Enjoy the journey! God takes each one of us down a different road with each child. We can embrace whichever journey he takes us on!

    1. And we never know where it will take us.

  2. Parenting is full of surprises. We can learn as much from our kids as they learn from us.

  3. Embrace the journey is the best advice anyone could ever give. Love it!

    1. Nothing else outside of love Jesus is really universal!

  4. Each baby is different – what works for one will not work for the other

  5. Yes, embrace the journey. No matter what the outcome. Today’s trial will seem inconsequential in a year. The outstanding person that you’re “bratty” child turned out to be will wipe away every “bad” memory. Remember every sweet moment though. Take pictures of their toes. Take pictures of their eyelashes. Try and remember the smell of their hair after a bath. Never be too busy for a cuddle. I could go on. It’s all part and parcel of enjoying the journey.

    1. I love those photo ideas. I never took baby feet photos and am super sad I missed it!

  6. This is so true. Each child is a different person. How can one book or piece of advice cover them all. Mine are all grown and I wish I had slowed down sometimes and let them experience my enjoyment of them.

    1. But I bet you did an amazing job! You have such a clear heart for the Lord!

  7. What a sweet post and so true. I know exactly how you felt at the baby shower when your daughter was misbehaving and my heart goes out to you. Another thing you gain when becoming a parent, solidarity and absolute empathy for other mom’s. Great advice about swaddling and putting the baby down while drowsy with music (although we had better luck with white noise). The bedtime routine worked wonders and still does and my boys are 3 & 5 now.

    1. We actually used a mobile that had lights and sounds that would shut off in 20 minutes with a lullaby cd playing quietly in the background, so when the mobile shut off there would still be some noise for another 30 minutes or so. Worked wonderfully, and we play Christian CDs and Bible stories for her, which had lead to her knowing her bible so incredibly well. And she still goes to bed easily most of the time (minus the I need a drink stage).

  8. Noting these down for when I need them!!! Thanks 🙂

  9. Thank you for sharing this. My husband and I are just coming to a place where we believe we are ready to start trying for a family. A huge step for us. So this post came very timely for me. Thank you for being open and sharing.

    1. How exciting! I hope that you found the post helpful because it’s a learning process that you can’t prepare for but somehow knowing that helps me feel a little better prepared.

  10. As long as we can do our best every day

  11. Great adivce for new parents!! I have a lady in my small group who just had a baby Sunday and we all gave her advice and one of the lady’s said as long as your baby is getting fed, and you and him/her are sleeping you are doing good. Lol we all died laughing

    1. Funny how we learn the truth of this only after we’ve worried ourselves sick about screwing it up.

  12. Gas drops! Yes!!! LOL. They helped me so much with my first son. You’re right, parenting is a journey and I am so blessed to be on it!

  13. Once I had my second kid, I realized more than ever that what worked for one kid may not work for another kid. Different kids, different personalities, and different parents, different living situations, styles and parenting methods….

    Very good post, thank you for sharing! I clicked to tweet! 🙂

    1. Yes, I have seen that even genetics and shared home don’t mean the same style works for each child.

  14. Quit wining and keep listening! Wow just wow great article and amazing advice. I’m pinning ths for sure!

  15. Yes, seek God in it all, through it all… especially in those times where we, as parents, feel like we are just plain failing. Because promises to be with us through every step, stage and season even when we stumble, get disorientated, or simply are worn out. It is such a journey.

  16. Amen! I totally agree that parenting is a journey. In my case, I feel that it’s God’s way of showing me how patient He has been and is to me as His child. Parenting is a picture of our relationship with God as our perfect Parent! Thanks for sharing your heart. It’s a blessing!

    1. I completely agree that seeing my daughter grow and learn has opened my eyes to how He must love me!

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