Army Wife Life
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Marriage Advice I Wish I Had 10 years ago
Do we have a perfect marriage? No! So why take marriage advice from an imperfect marriage? We’ve learned a lot about marriage and life over these ten years. And imperfect is the only kind there is, full of flaws and failures, love and laughter, but with two people determined to keep their promises. (Heaven not Harvard shares links as a participant in affiliate programs including the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.) Last November, we celebrated our 10th Anniversary! We’re not quite the wide-eyed dreamers we were when we said,…
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The Deployment Balancing Act – Day of the Deployed
The Day of the Deployed is always a bittersweet remembrance for me because my husband has deployed several times. While I am so grateful he isn’t deployed today, I know that thousands of spouses still wait, life on perpetual pause, hoping their spouses return safely. I never know how to summarize the experience of deployment for those outside this military community because it’s such a complex experience. We miss them as husbands, and we miss them as friends. We miss help with baths, bedtimes, homework, housework. While we struggle with anxiety and fear, we simultaneously live for every phone call or email and struggle to live at all. It’s this…
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The Red, White & Blue
Red, white & blue are the colors of the day. Flags will wave more today on American soil than any other day of the year. And every country music station will be streaming “I’m proud to be an American.” And I am. More so as a military wife because I live the sacrifices we honor on days such as these: Memorial Day, Veterans Day, Flag Day. In fact, my husband won’t see us today. He kissed me a sleepy goodbye at 5 a.m. and will be home tomorrow. We have our share of missed holidays due to his service to our nation. We miss weekends, we miss birthdays, Valentine’s Days…
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Memorial Day Grace & Perspective from an Army Wife
Before 2005, Memorial Day wasn’t really on my radar, even coming from a family of servicemen. It was the beginning of summer, BBQs, and I could wear white shoes again. But wasn’t really tangible for me until I kissed my young man goodbye and sent him to war. Luckily when I gave my heart to a soldier, he came home to me. (Heaven not Harvard is as a participant in affiliate programs including the Amazon Associates Program. As an affiliate, I earn from qualifying purchases.) Not every service member comes home, and I cannot speak for their families. I can only speak for my heart on this issue. About a…
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Go with the flow: My best tips for losing Control
Are you a bit of a control freak? Do you like to control every.single.thing? I am. Well, I was until I began losing control and life’s so much better. I’m in a control recovery program. It’s called Jesus. I’m learning that a lot of my control issues were really a type of temper tantrum about not wanting to trust God for my future. Go with the flow would never have been used to describe my personality. NEVER. I still need five minutes for deep breaths after a surprise change of plans. I’m learning to embrace changes, but I’ve had a lifetime of practice with my control habit. (Heaven not…
