Submissive is dirty word in a culture that is scared to submit. We clamor and chest thump about individuality, celebrate rebels and sarcasm, but we’re really scared of giving up the illusion of control. We aren’t willing to let go of what we think we need. Submission . . . . Women cringe as soon as pastors dust off this rusty gem from the sermon library. Submissive is the modern church’s dirty word. Just the idea of ‘obey’ in the marriage ceremony gets under our tissue paper skin like a splinter. But nothing has made a bigger difference in my marriage than learning to be boldly submissive, and I’ve never been…