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A Rape Victim’s Problem with Fifty Shades and the like
The Fifty Shades series is just the newest, shiniest example of racy romance novels turned into movies. As a Christian, I shouldn’t have to say anything to other Christians about not to reading or watching them, but as a rape victim and a mother, I felt I needed to. A lot of wonderful pastors have written tremendous articles about the dangers of Christians watching movies like Fifty Shades of Grey and Fifty Shades Darker. I can’t add much to such an excellent Christian commentary. I can only offer the purity standard I try to maintain for our home. Philippians 4:8 ESV / Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable,…
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Adoption Made Us Family: Adoption Day
Today is National Adoption Day. I keep hoping to write the perfect post that reflects just how amazing adoption has been in my life, but I have yet to find words that do this journey justice. While this was originally written on National Adoption Day 2016, it rings true for today and every day since the day we first saw her in the NICU in Texas. All I can say is adoption made us a family. Last fall, I was watching the Michael Weatherly drama Bull. The episode featured a woman who went into surgery expecting to come out with her ability to carry a child restored, but had to…
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Marriage Advice I Wish I Had 10 years ago
Do we have a perfect marriage? No! So why take marriage advice from an imperfect marriage? We’ve learned a lot about marriage and life over these ten years. And imperfect is the only kind there is, full of flaws and failures, love and laughter, but with two people determined to keep their promises. (Heaven not Harvard shares links as a participant in affiliate programs including the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.) Last November, we celebrated our 10th Anniversary! We’re not quite the wide-eyed dreamers we were when we said,…
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Which job is right for me? Ask Away Thursday
I’ve been invited to join a tribe of women bloggers in Ask Away Thursday. A couple of Thursdays a month, we’ll take a reader question and each answer it from our unique perspectives. Today’s question comes from Texas. My husband is transitioning from his career in the military, but isn't working yet. We need a supplemental income, so we've decided that I look for work while he pursues changing career paths. We have a 5yo in kindergarten, a 3 yo and an infant. I've been offered two jobs. One is full-time at minimum wage at a child development center working in the infant room. I would be able to have…
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Being Boldly Submissive in a Culture Scared to Submit
Submissive is dirty word in a culture that is scared to submit. We clamor and chest thump about individuality, celebrate rebels and sarcasm, but we’re really scared of giving up the illusion of control. We aren’t willing to let go of what we think we need. Submission . . . . Women cringe as soon as pastors dust off this rusty gem from the sermon library. Submissive is the modern church’s dirty word. Just the idea of ‘obey’ in the marriage ceremony gets under our tissue paper skin like a splinter. But nothing has made a bigger difference in my marriage than learning to be boldly submissive, and I’ve never been…
