Are you weary, momma? I'm so weary my weary is weary. I can't even think in complete sentences. How do we stay faithful in Christ when we're this exhausted?
Faith based living,  Godly Parenting

What to do when We are Weary

February 22, 2016 /

Are you weary, momma? I’m so weary my weary is weary. I can’t even think in complete sentences. Sinus pressure headaches create caveman speak inside my head, “Need coffee. Feed tiny human.”

Even my daily scripture app knows how exhausted I am, presenting me with this gem the other day.

Proverbs 30:1b “. . . I am weary, O God; I am weary, O God, and worn out.”

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What is your weary?

A teething baby, a health crisis, a rebellious teen, a sick pet, an artistic toddler who uses your walls as canvases, financial worries, marital problems? or all of the above?

When we are WEARY, we wear down, we wear out.

When I’m weary, I get sick faster, become emotional more quickly, and don’t cope with life well. Often I’ll end up sinning.

Have you ever found yourself yelling in fury at a little person who needed discipline, but didn’t deserve your rage because you were too tired to handle the situation?

I know I have. And I’m so ashamed of those moments, but grateful for His grace and forgiveness.

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When life starts to gang up on me with physical ailments, emotional challenges, parenting woes, I’ve had a tendency to get angry because my expectations are that my life is supposed to be something it isn’t.

As someone who frequently gets sick and struggles with physical challenges, I’ve found myself weeping with an overwhelming need to demand, “WHEN? just when is it MY turn, God?!?!”

When can I just have the mental or physical energy I need to get myself together?

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I heard God answer, not today, maybe not tomorrow. I’m not giving you what you want or even what you think you need, I promised to give you what you need.


What do I NEED?

Matthew 6:8 ESV .  .  .  your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

What I need to do what?

To be refined and purified for My (God’s) Kingdom, to serve others, and to be prepared for what comes next.

Oh, not for my sanity or emotional well-being. He is giving me what I need to GROW UP in Him.

Sigh.

At this point, I really want to stomp my feet and slam a door, but I pause. God isn’t punishing me, He is giving me riches.

Philippians 4:19 ESV“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”

I may not understand today, but I can trust this weary is purposeful because nothing is wasted when I turn my loose ends over to Him. He is building wisdom and strength in me, and a need for Him through this current weary.

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Matthew 11:28 ESV  Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Sometimes, when I’m tired and frustrated, I prefer to throw myself a little pity party. I just want to wallow in being miserable. I’ll ignore my waiting Bible in my anger because I just want to be mad for a little while.

But when I set my stubborn aside,

I’ll find rest when I come to Him.

  1. Pray: for His perspective in this moment and strength to get through this moment until I can rest.
  2. Be Still. Let Him be God. Listen for His instruction to separate my actual responsibilities from the weights I’ve put on myself.
  3. Open my Bible. Lots of good encouragement in there, plus it’s really hard to focus on my weary in comparison to the stories of the Bible.
  4. Triage. What is God’s greatest calling right now? Do that, then the next thing. Don’t worry about seven steps from now, prioritize. Being a loving wife and mother is WAY more important than cleaning house or making a gourmet meal.

After a season of weary, I choose the things that MUST be done, what I’d like to get done, and write down the rest. Writing things down relieves mental anxiety and stress, cutting down my weary.

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REST

  1. Schedule rest. I know I don’t have a lot of spoons everyday. I have an intensely weak immune system and horrible allergies. Pretending I have more spoons, will rob me of tomorrow’s spoons. I must build rest into our schedule.
  2. Do what re-energizes you. Praise, worship, play with your kids.
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When we’re exhausted, we lose sight of the truth: God gives us what we need to grow in Him. We’ll get tired. But let us not grow weary of doing good.

Galatians 6:9 ESV  And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

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