Do you have Love Goggles? I bet you do.
I have whispered a shocking secret to my daughter many times since she was born.
“You are the most beautiful girl in the world,” I would say, gently kissing her cheek or forehead.
Then add, “to me,” lest she wake up one day completely surprised that she isn’t. That day came sooner than I could have ever imagined.
My daughter had a wonderful playdate with a friend that turned emotional quickly. Hangry is a real thing. It was such a dramatic meltdown, from perfect harmony to disaster in less than a minute, that it was almost comical.
Our emotional center of gravity comes from our identity.
We shot each other sympathetic looks over the Oscar-worthy shenanigans happening with our little girls as my friend and I tried to wade through the whiny tears to decipher the conflict.
“She said she was more beautiful than me.” I heard screeched from across the room.
“Well, she said her mommy told her she was the most beautiful girl in the world, but you told me I was!” Followed by my daughter sinking to the ground in tears.
We both laughed and tried to calm down our girls by telling them that they were different, and both equally beautiful.
But hours later, my daughter could not get past this crisis of identity. I had told her she was the most beautiful girl in the world, and her friend’s mommy had told her daughter the same thing! How can this be true!?!
Just driving down the road, hot and sweaty after blueberry picking. I was not prepared to deal with such a deep question.
Her identity was shaken for the first time.
As always, I struggle with the underlying dynamics of a moment, in this case helping her understand that she is beautiful, what beauty means, and how what I told her was and will always be true.Is my daughter the most beautiful girl in the world? Yes, I see her thru love goggles. Click To Tweet
I thought for a moment.
“Well, moms look at their children through love goggles. When we look at our children through these lenses of love, we see the most beautiful child in the world . . .
But every mom feels this way about their kids. It is part of loving someone that you see them with different eyes when we wear Love Goggles.”
Her mouth formed a silent oh, and she nodded. My explanation made perfect sense to this little girl with a gigantic heart.It's part of loving someone that you see them with different eyes when we use love goggles. Click To Tweet
But even as I said these words to her, I could feel God nudging me, to hear Him say that He sees us through Love Goggles. He sees our flaws, but loves us so much that he sees past them and loves us with a reckless, crazy love.
Then I heard Him say, “and didn’t I send Jesus and the Spirit to give you Love Goggles for the world?”Didn't I send my Son and the Spirit to give you Love Goggles for the world? See them thru Me. Click To Tweet
I pictured my husband, my two teenagers, the angry neighbor, etc. and I realized how differently I am able to view people through the lens of Jesus, seeing their hurts and hearts, their need for love, and for God’s love, and how differently I’ve learned to react to life.
God calls to me, calls me precious one, My beautiful daughter. He sees me in ways that others never will. He sees the ugly in me, but loves me more.
God says, ‘let me change your ugly’ instead of throwing me away.
He looks at all of us as the most beautiful us in the world and means it in a way that causes even a mother’s love for a child to pale in comparison.
Letting myself BE loved in this way has given me the best perspective for the people in my world. Because I can see the way they need to be loved, too, even in their ugly.
I hope my daughter learns to see herself through God’s eyes too.
She doesn’t have to have a crisis of identity once she understands beauty truly is seen through the eye of the beholder and a pair of really Righteous love goggles. 😉