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Revisited: My Perspective on Homemaking and Tiffany Lamps

My perspective on homemaking has changed over the past few years as I've made my heart Christ's home. What I had always imagined wasn't what God wanted at all.(Last Updated On: August 22, 2017)

My perspective on homemaking has really changed in recent years as I’ve worked harder to make my heart a home for Christ. What I had always imagined wasn’t what God wanted at all.

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I used to obsessively watch HGTV and dream of my perfect space. But once I had my dream home, I’ve realized that God isn’t interested in how I decorate it as much as he wants to be the master of how I live in it.

I used to imagine my future home once I could afford to move out of my cramped apartment. I pictured a delicious reading nook with a cozy chair and the warm ambiance of a Tiffany lamp surrounded by rich mahogany.

Then I made my first budget on a teacher’s salary, looked at the price of a Tiffany lamp, and put it firmly out of my mind. Even so, often I came back to that idealistic image.

Last night catching up with my DVR, I flipped through one of the holiday catalogs that have already started filling my mailbox. The most beautiful Tiffany lamp caught my eye. I quickly scanned to see the price, $349.

On one salary,The Tiffany lamp was still out of our budget.

I imagined squirreling away $5 here, $20 there, anticipating purchasing this lamp. I pictured right where I would put it, how it would glow against my red accent wall. Staring at the picture, I daydreamed of steaming coffee cups, cozy pajamas, and a book next to the soft glow of my lamp, whisking me away into the perfect bliss of quiet reading time.

Ahem, as if I ever actually FIND time to quietly read, but I digress.

Then, I imagined military movers with my Tiffany lamp and shuddered.

Next I considered how my beautiful, imaginary lamp would really make me feel. I’m in a season of mothering a young daughter with a menagerie of pets.

I wouldn’t want anyone to touch it. Letting kids play near it would give me palpitations. In my mind, watching the dogs chase the cat under the table that houses my imaginary lamp made my stomach knot.

How might I act protecting my lamp? I could almost hear the shrill, sharp tone I might  use if anyone played too roughly near my lamp. If it were broken someday, how would I feel about having wasted $349 when we’re living paycheck to paycheck?

My perspective on homemaking has changed over the past few years as I've made my heart Christ's home. What I had always imagined wasn't what God wanted at all.

My perspective on homemaking began to change. . .

when I realized my identity is rooted in Christ, not how nicely I decorate my home.

I’ve been making a concerted effort to serve God intentionally in my home, with my home, choosing God’s focus in ways that encourage my family to enjoy our things instead of simply not breaking them. My house is supposed to give us a place to rest and fellowship, be a place to live.

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Would a fragile lamp be worth the cost, much less the price tag?

One of the biggest changes in my life has been relaxing who I am in our home. I’ve changed by what standard I measure my success. My standard should always be Jesus. Jesus taught us to love each other, to love others more than ourselves, and that people who value wealth rarely find Him.

I look around at my now mussed, lived-in house and celebrate the growth in my heart. I’ve spent years afraid to live in my version of chaos, stuff that isn’t magically put away the second we are finished with it.

I didn’t understand that my fear of ruining my perfect things was hurting those I loved. The people in my home are more important than the things that might get broken. In the past, I’ve cried over broken ceramics, but ignored the hurts my selfish actions caused my family.

But today, a toy broom lays at my feet because I was playing with my daughter after lunch. Her elaborate “picnic” sits carefully constructed in the middle of the living room, waiting patiently for her daddy to come home to play. Toy friends lie carelessly strewn right in the middle of the hallway. They wait to create an entire imaginary world for her, causing her to stop to play instead of beg for screen time.

Saving up money and waiting patiently for something that we want is a good lesson to teach children. However, right now, that is the only good lesson I can think of regarding this lamp.

Looking at the price tag, I can spend $350 on a lot of things: a plane ticket for one of my stepsons to visit, Christmas gifts for our family, or a carload of groceries for the neighbors who haven’t had fresh vegetables in a month.

So, no, I won’t buy a Tiffany lamp in this season of life, although I might someday buy a budget version.

I have chosen to put serving God above everything else. God always seems to ask, “What can you be doing for me?” I can’t see how I could serve Him with this lamp, either in my home or in my community.

No matter how beautiful a lamp might be, I cannot allow it to overshadow God’s light in me. My new perspective on homemaking is our house serves my mission as a disciple, not as a museum for pretend perfection.

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20 thoughts on “Revisited: My Perspective on Homemaking and Tiffany Lamps

  1. Love this so much! Waiting to buy something can teach us (like you realized) that maybe we really don’t need it at all. Maybe our perspectives have changes and God has grown us in the process of waiting.
    This is such a great example, Jennifer!

  2. Love this post so much!!!! Your way if thinking is so good! We can decorate our homes to the glory of God and that means thinking of the people who will see them and use them. They can and should be beautiful and useful and often chaotic! 🙂

  3. What I love about the post is that although there was nothing wrong with wanting the lamp you still allowed God to teach you a lesson. This was a really awesome post about perspective. We never want our selfish wants and desires to overshadow God. He is so gracious that he brings these things to our attention and then gives us peace. Thank you for your words!

    1. Thank you for the encouragement!

  4. What a wonderful perspective! I’ve thought of my home as tool for missions before but never really analyzed how I’m living in my home and how that reflects the gospel as well. Thanks for this! I’ll definitely be taking a closer look at how I live and move and act in and towards my home after reading this.

  5. With two children, my view of homemaking has changed as well. My husband homeschools our children so they are here and in the home all the time. They are learning and exploring, playing and imagining. I blog and work full-time as a Christian mental health therapist. Our house is messy at times! But there is love, joy and curiosity! God Bless!

    1. Sounds wonderful!

  6. You described to at T a thought process I go through regularly. I had a dream house and lost it. And learned that it isn’t as important as I thought.

    1. I’m still living in mine, but it’s a LOT messier and happier.

  7. It’s much more important that our kids feel at home in our house than that our house be perfect.

  8. Someday you’ll have your Tiffany lamp! Our house doesn’t have many “nice” things in it either–but I’m okay with that! With two rambunctious little boys, I’d rather have a house full of things we don’t care about too awfully much!

    1. Maybe. But unless money becomes less of an issue by far, I think I will find lots of good things to do before buying a lamp. There is always someone in need.

  9. Jen, you are a fantastic writer. You are quickly becoming one of my favorite bloggers.

    1. Aw, thanks Kelly. I appreciate the compliment, but I write what God puts on my heart with the talents he has given me. I’m just trying to be a good and faithful servant.

  10. What a unique and interesting post. I love it 🙂 It’s very interesting how you took such a specific example and made such a good point about living intentionally for the Lord! I think we all have material things we struggle with lusting after, and it is lust! I hope if you ever get a Tiffany lamp, it will come along the way God wants to bless and reward you!

  11. Excellent post. Definitely thought-provoking. Wonder if there are any cheap but pretty Tiffany lamp look-alikes? 🙂

    1. Thank you. I bought a cheap but cheap looking one. Haven’t had time to look for a nicer one in recent years. Maybe I will keep an eye out.

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